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Warning & Danger Signs of Abuse

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WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSE

There are many signs that your relationship is abusive.
Some of these include, if your partner is:

Person gets mad when man says hi to woman

Jealous

They do not like you talking to anyone else.

Person hitting woman with belt

Physically abusive

Pushes, slaps, kicks, punches or throws objects at you.

Woman in wheelchair thinking about money, credit cards and a house

Controlling

Does not allow you to have your own bank account.

Woman looking at cell phone with a lot of messages coming in

Monitors you

They call you all the time to check what you are doing.

Woman looks humiliated while reading posts from her partner

Humiliates you

Puts you down or embarrasses you on Facebook, Instagram, etc.

Person screaming at woman

Blames you

Says it was your fault for making them angry.

Person talking down to woman and she feels bad about herself

Tries to make you feel
bad about yourself

Call you bad names and criticizes the way you look.

Person holding woman's wrists pushing her backwards

Pressures you

They force you to do things,
like have sex when you do not want to.

Woman being separated from her parents

Isolates you

They do not like you seeing your friends or family.

Person holding knife to woman's throat

Their past

They have abused other partners.

DANGER SIGNS

Some signs mean that you are in extreme danger and you are at a high risk of being seriously hurt or killed by your partner.

These signs must be
taken very seriously.

Do not ignore them and
get help now!

Contact one of our counsellors. We are here to listen and support you with whatever you decide to do.

Person looking mean as woman cowers

You are afraid of
your partner

They frighten and scare you with what they say, do or even how they look at you.

Person pushing woman

Extremely jealous

They act like they own you.

Woman cowers in corner

Extremely controlling

You need to ask them to do anything or go anywhere.

Person controls other persons schedule, food, etc.

Does not allow you access to life necessities

Keeps you from food, water, heat, medicine, or stops you from seeing a doctor.

Person threatens woman with gun

Threatens you

Says things like, “I am going to kill you” or “you will never see the children again.”

If you do decide to leave, remember that leaving is the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship, so it is very important to plan ahead to make leaving as safe as possible.

Person threatens to kill themself as woman walks out door

Threatens themselves

Says that they will kill or hurt themselves if you end the relationship.

Person standing over scared kids and dog

Hurts animals or children

They are cruel and
emotionally cold.

Even if you do not want to leave your relationship, it is a good idea to have a plan in case you need to leave quickly next time your partner gets violent.

Woman questioning another woman

Violence is worsening and happening more often

The abuse has become the new ‘normal’ in your life.

Person choking woman

Tries to stop you from breathing

Puts their hands or object around your neck, presses against your throat or covers your nose and mouth.

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