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What is Abuse?

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Abuse in a relationship is when your partner hurts or treats you badly. It does not need to involve physical violence. Abuse can also be verbal, emotional, sexual, psychological or financial. Whatever form it takes, abuse in a relationship is never okay.

Your partner may blame you for how you are being treated. You may have tried to find ways to fix the relationship. Know that it is never your fault, and the only person responsible for the abuse is your partner.

Maybe you are experiencing mixed emotions. Your partner may be loving one moment, and then suddenly is angry and violent. Often, what follows are excuses, apologies and promises that it will never happen again. You may start to feel programmed and be careful about what you say and do, scared what your partner might do next. This is how they try to control how you think, act and feel. The Cycle of Abuse explains this pattern of behaviour and shows how an abusive partner controls both their partner and the relationship. This is why it is often difficult to leave an abusive relationship.

The Cycle of Abuse: 3 Phases Diagram

You have a right to feel safe in a relationship that is free from violence and abuse. Remember, you are not alone, and help is available. We are here to support you with whatever step you decide to take.

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